Where are you now? What are you doing? Who are you with? Do you always ask your boyfriend these three questions when he is not with you? Generally speaking, it is alright to do so as long as you are not doing this many times within an hour. The worse scenario is you stop him from having any female friends, order him to delete or not to add any female friends in social networking such as facebook, MySpace or Twitter etc. The worst part is probably when you want him to appear in front of you anytime you want and if he does not, he will be scolded badly. Such possessive behavior can ruin the relationship sooner or later and hence, let’s learn to overcome it.
1) Remember that love is to make one happy
If asking anyone of us to actually love our boyfriends without expecting for return, it is highly impossible. We all hope our boyfriends love us as much as we do and wish that he loves you and you only. Therefore, giving without expecting for a return is difficult. However, the least thing you can do is to make him happy if you really love him. For example, when you are being very possessive over him, he will not be happy at all. He could feel tired, pressured and unhappy when you are acting unreasonably. A relationship should bring happiness but not sadness to couples. Hence, try your best to change such character that can ruin a happy relationship.
2) He is yours only when he thinks so.
Some people just cannot help but being possessive over their partners. They think that their partners belong to them and start treating their partners like their belongings. Remember, no matter how much he loves you, he is an individual with a separate mindset from you. We are not able to plant our thoughts in them even we might be able to influence them day by day. Therefore, if he thinks he is yours, he will try his best to please you without you declaring your rights over him. To the contrary, if he thinks he deserves to have his own way of living, the more possessive you are over him, the more he wants to run away from you.
3) Be considerate
If he treats you the way you treat him in terms of possessiveness, are you happy with it? Oh yes, there is minority of people do not mind their partners being possessive over themselves. They describe such possessiveness as loving and concern. However, it is doubtful that you can bear with it over long period of time especially when the level of possessiveness is very high. Therefore, if you do not like the feeling of being controlled 24/7 then be considerate towards your boyfriend and treat him the way you prefer to be treated.
If you desire for a long term relationship, you need to maintain a healthy relationship. Both parties need to feel comfortable and happy to be together. If your boyfriend feels tired while in a relationship with you, it will not last. Being possessive does neither good to you nor your partner because when he cannot fulfill any of your unreasonable requests, you then become emotional and mad. Therefore, learn to overcome possessiveness in order to improve the relationship.
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