Do you become alert when you see your boyfriend talking happily with another woman around your age? Do you always check your boyfriend’s mobile’s text messages and calls record? Do you always want to follow him anywhere when he says he is going out with friends? If you are answering yes to all these questions, you need to ask yourself if you are feeling insecure with your boyfriend. When such feeling grows stronger, it can kill a good relationship. Let say, when your boyfriend has always been honest with you but due to your insecure feeling, you do not trust him and this can damage your relationship. Nonetheless, there are ways to overcome it. See below.
1) Be Confident with Yourself
Being confident with yourself is very important and you always need to bear this in mind. Without confidence, you will doubt about yourself. When you are being doubtful, you lost your identity. You will forget how great a woman you are but keep focusing on how good your man is and think that anyone better than you are trying to grab him from you. To avoid falling into this trap, you must constantly remind yourself that you are a great woman who deserves to be loved and hence, even if he leaves you, it is him who suffer from the lost but not you.
2)Trust him
To most women, this is easy to say but difficult to do. Many even say if men can be trusted, pigs can climb trees. See, this shows how difficult it is for women to trust their men. Nevertheless, you still need to. When trust does not exist in your relationship, what for to be in a relationship? There will be many arguments between both of you if you choose not to trust your man. Therefore, try your best to believe him.
3)Communication
Whenever you have something in mind related to him, you shall talk to him. Avoid questioning him like interrogating and avoid raising your voice during the communication. Communication is important to keep the relationship goes on smoothly. You do not want to guess as you could guess wrongly; you do not want to judge him as it could be your wrong perception. Therefore, the best is to communicate with him. Understand him better and be a good listener at the same time.
4)Keep yourself occupied
When you are busy, you will not have time to bother about the insecure feeling you have towards him. Hang out with friends occasionally and enjoy yourself even he is not around. Remember, before you met him, you have been on your own. You were good before you met him so avoid becoming depressed after being with him.
5)Be independent.
Sometimes, the insecure feeling arises is due to too much reliance put on him. When you depend on him solely, you will become very anxious of his every action. When he cares you lesser, you will start thinking otherwise. The more you rely on him, the more you cannot let go the feeling of insecure. To the contrary, if you can be independent, the insecure feeling will disappear automatically. This is because you are fully aware that you can still have a good life even without him
It could be due to various reasons that cause you to feel insecure with your man. Whatever reason it is, it is your responsibility to overcome it. Find the root that cause such insecure feeling within you towards him and try to solve it by following the above mentioned tips. If you still feel insecure when you are with him after adopting the 5 tips, you should really ask yourself, if he is really your Mr.Right.
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