How to Avoid Bad Arguments in Relationship?

As suggested by the title, this is an article that shares with you on how you can avoid “bad” arguments in relationships. Generally speaking, majority of the people prefer fewer arguments in relationship. It is highly possible to have fewer arguments but to avoid arguments at all, is highly impossible and if such example exists, I believe that one of the parties has not voiced out his/her view during communication. Nevertheless, arguments are not always bad. Some couples get closer together after arguments made and these are not bad one. Now, what can you to avoid bad arguments in relationship?

First of all, you need to understand what bad arguments are. Bad arguments often started off by losing your emotional control. Either or both parties raise their voice to each other and neither party is actually paying attention to what another says. They just want to shout out their thoughts to each other. Basically, this is nothing different from saying, “I don’t want to listen to any of your words, I just want you to listen to me and follow what I say”. When the couples are frustrated and lose control over their emotional feeling, they are no longer rational. Whatever words blurted out could be hurtful to the other party or not serving any purpose to come up to a settlement.

After you know what trigger bad arguments, you then focus on what you can do when you think or feel that you can barely control your emotional feeling during arguments. First, keep your mouth shut for a few seconds in order to hold back those words that you are going to shout, or scold or yell out. Secondly, take a deep breath, think quickly and speak slowly. Thirdly, tell your partner that both of you are not in a calm mode to discuss anything further. Suggest that both parties take a break from each other, such as not to speak for an hour or two to think of the problem and the way to solve.

Before you start the discussion again, set a rule that neither of you can shout at each other during the discussion. If anyone breaks the rule, discussion halts. Finally, speak gently to each other just like how you speak to your partner when you just started dating him/her. Only when both parties can speak nicer to each other, the hearts get closer together. Always remind yourself that you are there to solve the problem but not to make it worse. Having this mindset, your discussion with your partner will work out smoothly.

If neither of you can come up to a workable settlement at the end, you then need to know whether you want to tolerate with his view so to make things work. However, if you insist on your point of view and refuse to tolerate with him, you shall take some time off from him (probably a few days to a week maximum) to think through the problems between both of you. Do you still want to continue the relationship if such issue continues to happen? Always face the problems, do not ignore them. Ignore the problems can only make things worse. Therefore, face it and solve it is the way to a happy relationship.

How to Avoid Bad Arguments in Relationship?

The One Magical Way that Keeps Your Relationship Last.

When a woman is in love, she hopes that her relationship can last as long as possible, if not forever. Therefore, she puts in a lot of effort and time, trying hard to maintain the relationship. However, it does not turn out the way she wants it to be. She gets disappointed. Now, she just wants to enjoy being in a relationship and cannot be bothered whether it lasts or not. Have you gone through this process too? If yes, please do not give up hope in finding your true love that can last longer than you can imagine. Let me show you the very simple way to keep your relationship lasts and you would realize it really works like magic.

What is it then? Before telling you the way, ask yourself the following questions. First, do you wish to share everything of yours with him? For example, you want to share your little secrets with him or tell him something that you would feel embarrassed to tell others except him. Secondly, do you hope that whenever he has something to tell, the first person pops up in his mind is you? Finally, do you desire for a relationship that neither of you need to talk, but both understand each other needs?

If your answers to the abovementioned questions are all positive, then now you are entitled to know the way that helps you to make your dream comes true. Make him your best friend is the answer. I am not saying that you must find a best friend to become your lover, what I mean is to try your best to make the relationship with your boyfriend like a best friendship too. You can fall in love at first sight or fall in love after you know him for some time. Whichever it is, it shall not stop you from making him your best friend.

You might be curious why you must make him your best friend to keep the relationship lasts. Let me reveal the reasons behind. First of all, lust in relationship might not last forever. Therefore, when lust fades away, you need something to maintain the relationship and the best way is when both of you are treating each other as best buddies. Now, take a few minutes to think through, before you met him, who will be the first option to turn to when you have something to tell eagerly? Isn’t she your best friend? When you are in a relationship, you just need to put him as your first option. By doing so, you will be able to keep a good communication with your boyfriend.

Certainly, you do not want to be the only one who is doing it. Therefore, you make yourself to become his best friend too. Won’t you be unhappy if he doesn’t turn to you but others when he has problems to tell or happy moments to share with? I am sure you will. If you do not, I doubt how much you really love him. Therefore, try to make him to talk with you. Be a good listener is the first step in building up a good friendship cum relationship. Listen to him and do not ignore him when he is so eager to share his views with you. You might not be able to solve his problem but at least, he knows that you will be there for him whenever he needs you.

Being his best friend, you are not only having a relationship with him, but also a relationship that lasts as long as a friendship. Try the way out and you will be amazed by the result and of course, in a good way.

The One Magical Way that Keeps Your Relationship Last.

5 Steps to Discover if He is Your Mr.Right

It is not difficult to meet new people and make new friends but there may be difficulties to know whether he is your Mr.Right. You might not have so much time to spend with each of the man you interested and I believe you would also want to find your prince as fast as possible. Therefore, you need guidance to assist you in finding your Mr.Right without wasting unnecessary time dating with different men everyday. The 5 steps are as follows:-

1) Know who you are.

This is a very important step because without knowing what type of person you are, you will not know what type of man suits you the best. If you are not sure about yourself, you can try asking your close friends, your siblings or even your parents. They are the people who spend most of the time with you and they probably know you better than you do.

2) Hunt for the most suitable one.

Women usually set their own standards for the type of lover they want. When she is with Tom, she finds Jerry is cuter or more attractive than Tom. Probably Jerry is better looking, richer or more caring than Tom. However, if you keep comparing the one beside you to other men, you will always think that others are better than him. Therefore, you should give up hunting for the best man but start looking for the man who suits you the best.

3) Observation and do something!

Though many people say that love is something you can meet but you cannot force it to happen, I believe if you do nothing when you meet someone you have feeling for, you are just letting go the chance of being with your Mr.Right. In order to fasten the process of finding your Mr.Right, you need to observe. Observe the people around you and try to see and feel if there is anyone who is always there for you. Do what you can to start hunting down your Mr.Right or else others will.

4) Compatible.

If you are a very clean and tidy person, you better think twice before you consider accepting a man who is very messy and not as hygienic as you. When you really love him, you probably ignore the fact that he is unclean and untidy. However, in the long run, there will be lots of arguments if both of you keep the same way of living. This is one of the compatible examples. Other main things you need to consider is whether both of you share the similar characteristics or the opposite, i.e. you like staying at home whole day long but he cannot stand a minute to be at home; he likes climbing hills and adventurous activities but you are so scare of these activities. If both of you are not compatible, it is not easy to maintain a long term relationship.

5) Share the same goals.

If you and him are sharing the same goals, you two will work hand in hand to achieve the goals. If you want to concentrate in your career now while he wants to set up a family, both of you are walking on parallel lines whereby there is no meeting point. However, if both of you decide to work hard together till certain age and get married by then, the same mindset can keep both of you happy and satisfied as both of you are heading towards the same aim.

Lastly, the right man for you does not fall from the sky and even your friends or family members can introduce men to you, you are still the ultimate decision maker. Therefore, treat the 5 steps as your guidance in finding your Mr.Right, these tips save you lots of time and efforts in walking around the bushes.

5 Steps to Discover if He is Your Mr.Right

The Pros and Cons of being with a boyfriend younger than you

In this modern era, it is very common to see that the boyfriend or partner is younger than the woman beside him. As long as the age gap is not more than three years old, the parents and friends of the women can normally accept such relationship. Even though relationship is said to be something between the couple, most of the people still mind about society’s perception if the type of relationship is within the minority group. Before you make your decision to be with a younger boyfriend, you probably want to go through the following pros and cons to assist you in making up your final decision.

The two Pros are follows:-
1) He keeps you young spiritually.

Undeniably speaking, when your boyfriend is a few years younger than you, you want to try your best to match him. In order to match up with him, you would dress up young, act young and look young. Especially when you hang out with his friends who are at his age, you do not want his friends to look at you differently and hence, you make all efforts to mix with them. Due to you keeping your heart young, your mindset would automatically become younger too.

2) Less possessive.

Compare to boyfriends who are elder than you, younger boyfriends tend to control the girlfriends lesser. It could be due to them dislike being controlled by girlfriends, they then do not control your daily lives that much. It is good for women who dislike reporting their daily lives to the boyfriends or partners.

The two Cons are as follows:-
1) Less mature than you.

If your boyfriend is a few years younger than you, you better expect him to be more childish than other men at your age. His thinking might not be as mature as yours or probably very childish. When you want to settle down, set up a family with him, he might want to skip or ignore that topic and ask you to just enjoy the fun time with him now.

2) Less caring and considerate.

Due to his younger age, you are more like a bigger sister to him. He loves you probably because you can take good care of him. To the contrary, he would be less caring and/or considerate with you. You might even have to tolerate with him when two of you are having arguments. Due to his immature thinking, no matter how hard you explain, he might not understand. Of course, there will be exceptions where younger men can be mature too.

There are always pros and cons we need to face in our lives. Whatever decision you have made, you will need to accept it as it is. You can think of changing your man but this is not advisable. It is easier to change yourself than changing another person. If you cannot accept who he is, it is better for you to let go of him. Most importantly, ask yourself if you are happy with this man. If you are, then nothing can stop you.

The Pros and Cons of being with a boyfriend younger than you

Where is My True Love?

"True love, true love, where are you? I have been searching for you high and low, but how come you never come to me?" Since the moment we have desire for love in relationships, we ask this question repeatedly. Even for those who already have lovers, there are some who still doubt if the one beside her is the true love in her life.

When you are in doubt, ask yourself, why are you in doubt? Is it because he is not treating you good enough? Or is it because he is not fulfilling your requirements? Or is it because you keep looking for someone better than the one beside you? Someone who is more caring, more good looking, richer, and most of all, able to satisfy whatever you ask for?

Do you think you can really find the best man in the world? Indeed, there is a possibility that you might find the best man in the world, the best man who is most welcomed and win the votes of 99% of the ladies around the world. However, the possibility of finding such a best man might be 0.01%. Very often than not, we like or love something or someone else more than the thing and the one we currently have or be with is because we do not own it or him. If you believe that the one you can never be with is the best man, I can assure you that you will never find the best man.

Therefore, if you could start learning to appreciate the one beside you, you will have no regrets in life. He might not know how to appreciate you even if you do. However, if you have tried your best to do what you can, that is it. You can either choose to walk away from the one who does not know how to appreciate you or continue to hold on him. There is no right or wrong in love. Only willing or unwilling exists.

When you are willing to do anything for the one you love, you shall not feel suffered or burdened. If you feel tired and sad to continue doing what you are doing now, he might not be the one whom you should hold on. No one can really tell you if he suits you except yourself. To feel contended in a relationship is not easy, just like it is difficult to feel satisfied with the money you can have. You always want more and more, more love or more money.

However, if you meet the one who can give you the feeling that you can lose the whole world but you would still be happy if he is beside you, giving you support faithfully. Congratulations! Lucky you, you have found your true love and most importantly, you know how to appreciate him. All the best to the women out there, wishing you all find your true love one of these days.

Where is My True Love?

5 Tips on How to Keep Your Relationship “Fresh”?

When couples just fall in love for each other, they are completely out of control. Both sides are willing to do anything or everything for each other. Even if he hates shopping so much, he still shops with you from day till night without making a single complaint. If he does not know how to cook, he tries his best to cook a romantic dinner for you and tells you that he has never done so till he met you.

However, things do not always remain the same, so do relationships. A few months after the "honeymoon relationship period" ends, guys start to get bored and enter into comfort zone with the girlfriends. He starts to care you lesser, text you lesser and lazy to create any surprises for you anymore. Women start panicking, wondering if the relationship has reached the stagnant point. Probably, stagnant is better than going downhill. Nevertheless, both are bad signs if it does not go uphill again. Therefore, share with you the following 5 tips on how you can keep your relationship "fresh".

1) Keep communicating with him.

When the heat of love has passed away, he might be lazy to text, call or see you that often like before. However, never stop communicating with him. If you think he is the Mr.Right you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to put in more effort by keep concerning him. Do not get angry and start scolding him when he replies your message late, just take it easy. By keeping communication with him, you will know if he still cares for you and this can keep your relationship from going downhill any further.

2) Be his best friend.

If he likes watching football matches, try watching with him. It might be difficult for most women but if you cannot stop him from doing his favorite activity, what can you do? If you scold him or nag him, he only feels that you are annoying and he would rather spend his time with his friends. Therefore, you need to be his best friend by joining in his activities and show to him that you are interested in it. When he feels that you are someone whom he can share his life with, he will be very excited to find you as his Mrs. Right and for sure, your relationship is fresh again.

3) Avoid nagging him too much.

Sometimes, it is really women nature to like nagging the men. When women concern their boyfriends, or husbands and/or children, they tend to nag a lot. For example, remind them to do this or not to do that. However, one thing you must keep in mind is that no one likes to be nagged, not even yourself. I believe you do not like to be nagged by your mother either. Therefore, try to reduce the amount of times you nag your boyfriend. The lesser you nag, the more he wants to spend time with you.

4) Have your own life.

By having your own life does not require you to frozen your relationship. Very often, the main reason why the couples get bored very fast in a relationship is because there is no one else they spend time with except each other. The world of two lovers seems nice and romantic but this situation cannot last forever. No matter how many more topics you can share with him, there will be times when he get bored of seeing or talking with the same person but no one else. Hence, both of you need to take time off from each other. Hang out with your friends like the time before you met him. Seeing each other lesser a bit can keep the relationship to grow stronger.

5) Plan a trip together.

It does not need to be somewhere very far or must take a plane to fly to another country. It could be a road trip or just go to any nearby seaside to have a picnic together. Travelling together can get the city-stress life out of sight and out of mind temporarily. Even though temporarily, it is very helpful in maintaining your relationship fresh.

When you find that your relationship is going downhill or reaches a stagnant point, stay calm. Certainly, you cannot expect your relationship to keep striking up non-stop. There will be a point where both of you need to stop and think the next step. While it starts to go downhill, just apply the above mentioned 5 tips, your relationship will be refreshed.

5 Tips on How to Keep Your Relationship “Fresh”?

The One Who Care Least is the Winner in Love

"I can't live without you" is the sentence that will not be spoken by the winner in the game of love. There are many women who love their partners more than themselves, or do not mind to be the maid in love for their partners. Not to say that caring and loving your partners more than yourselves is wrong but everything should have a limit. Love requires not only emotional feeling but also rational thinking. If you love someone blindly till you want to give up your life and hope when he falls for another girl and leave you, no one is going to pity you. The man who leave you will only think you are mad for giving up your life for him but he will never turn to you again.

Then, does it mean that you should not care for your partner at all? The answer is in negative. In the game of love, you need to know how to care for him at the right time. If you feel that your partner does not really care much about you such as not bother to know where you are, what you are doing or who you are with, you will suffer a lot if you are the only one who care. The more you care for him, the more he would take you for granted.

Knowing how to control your emotional feeling is very important. You might want to give up everything of yours to him but remember, never give up yourself. There is one and only YOU in this world, everyone is irreplaceable. You can lose everything in your life, but never lose yourself. Especially when you give up hope in life or love for one who does not know how to appreciate you, you are just making the silliest mistake ever. Always preserve your dignity, this is the least thing you must do.

All of us deserve to be loved and cared of. Before you ask for someone to care for you, love yourself first. Love yourself first does not equal to being selfish. It is one of the best ways to lead a happier life for both of you and your partner. When trust exists among couples, they will automatically care for each other without feeling suffer at all. If you were to start suffering while you care for him, you need to hold back and take time to think through what has gone wrong. Ask yourself if that is really what you want to go through. Do you want a relationship that both of you are happy with or a relationship that you are always living in sadness and disappointment?

In conclusion, make sure you love without feeling that that is a burden. If he has betrayed your trust, and you are always sad when think of him, you need to talk with him. Communication is a very important thing in relationship. Try not to mind every little thing he does. Instead of being sad for many days, think of ways on how you can overcome it. You, then become the winner in love.

The One Who Care Least is the Winner in Love