How many times have you heard this word from others? Do you always hear people advising you, “Appreciate the one beside you, and appreciate whatever you have now”? You may hear this very often but are you doing it now and then? Recently there was a broken up relationship happened to my friend and this word suddenly come across my mind, I believe one of the very important and basic requirements in relationship is that we all need to learn to appreciate the one with you and appreciate what you have now.
Very often, when couples step into the “comfort zone”, both parties start to take each other for granted or asking for more. At the first three months of the relationship, everything was fine and each party is willing to please each other in every way. Three months later, the guy might cool down a bit and thought that he has entered into a “steady stage” and hence, he does lesser than he used to do to please the girl. Then, the girl starts to ask for more or ask the boyfriend to at least maintain how he used to be.
It is possible that some guys can really maintain the heat all the time and willing to please the girl every second and every minute. For example, text her every 5 minutes and call her once every few hours and the girl needs not do a thing to please the guy. Yes, is possible but the percentage of having such a guy on earth is probably 1%. Such situation can probably maintain for a short period of time but if you expect it to last forever, you can probably find this guy from the love novel you read or from those love movies you watch.
When the guy does not do and please you as he used to, it does not mean that he loves you lesser. Normally, the girl will say that guy is just giving excuse to be lazy in a relationship. However, have you ever asked yourself how much had you done for him? Do you please him once in a while or take the initiative to call or text him when he did not do so? Relationship is maintained when both sides are willing to put in efforts and time. If there is only one party contributing to the relationship and another keeps asking for more but do nothing for the relationship, the keep contributing party will ultimately feels relentless.
Therefore, why not start learning to appreciate? Why wait till problems occur and come to the point whereby both parties are hurt deeply then only you thought of making a change? In fact, if you really make a change by then is not considered late, at least you do. However, many do not think the same and think that the guys are the one who should keep giving.
In this modern era, we all ask for equal rights for women and men. If you really want to be treated equally, aren’t you supposed to contribute a bit in relationship too? If you think that there are no equal rights between men and women, then back to the time whereby woman stays at home and man works outside and listens to his words. Be fair to yourself and to your man too. The same theory applies to both parties as in if the guy does not appreciate you at all; you certainly deserve someone better than him. At least, if you have really done your part, you will have no regrets in future.
Very often, when couples step into the “comfort zone”, both parties start to take each other for granted or asking for more. At the first three months of the relationship, everything was fine and each party is willing to please each other in every way. Three months later, the guy might cool down a bit and thought that he has entered into a “steady stage” and hence, he does lesser than he used to do to please the girl. Then, the girl starts to ask for more or ask the boyfriend to at least maintain how he used to be.
It is possible that some guys can really maintain the heat all the time and willing to please the girl every second and every minute. For example, text her every 5 minutes and call her once every few hours and the girl needs not do a thing to please the guy. Yes, is possible but the percentage of having such a guy on earth is probably 1%. Such situation can probably maintain for a short period of time but if you expect it to last forever, you can probably find this guy from the love novel you read or from those love movies you watch.
When the guy does not do and please you as he used to, it does not mean that he loves you lesser. Normally, the girl will say that guy is just giving excuse to be lazy in a relationship. However, have you ever asked yourself how much had you done for him? Do you please him once in a while or take the initiative to call or text him when he did not do so? Relationship is maintained when both sides are willing to put in efforts and time. If there is only one party contributing to the relationship and another keeps asking for more but do nothing for the relationship, the keep contributing party will ultimately feels relentless.
Therefore, why not start learning to appreciate? Why wait till problems occur and come to the point whereby both parties are hurt deeply then only you thought of making a change? In fact, if you really make a change by then is not considered late, at least you do. However, many do not think the same and think that the guys are the one who should keep giving.
In this modern era, we all ask for equal rights for women and men. If you really want to be treated equally, aren’t you supposed to contribute a bit in relationship too? If you think that there are no equal rights between men and women, then back to the time whereby woman stays at home and man works outside and listens to his words. Be fair to yourself and to your man too. The same theory applies to both parties as in if the guy does not appreciate you at all; you certainly deserve someone better than him. At least, if you have really done your part, you will have no regrets in future.
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